… Groundhog Day: the part where he keeps trying to save the guy who dies.
Phil is a reporter sent to cover the groundhog seeing his shadow on Groundhog’s Day. For some reason, he enters a time loop and relives the same day over again .. and over and over and over again. He starts trying to make small changes – to himself, of course, but also to the old man who dies in the gutter at the end of that day.
He tries to save him every day. He tries CPR. He tries encountering him earlier in the day, getting him a hot meal and some warm clothes. He tries everything he knows how to do, but no matter what, the old man dies at the end of the day.
For me, this is the turning point for Phil, more so even than the meaningful connections he makes that eventually break the time loop. He has to accept that he cares – something he had not been able to do before – and he has to accept that, no matter what he does or how hard he tries, he can’t control everything. Not even an important thing. The most important thing in this world – whether we’re dead or alive – is actually entirely and completely beyond Phil’s ability to change by even a moment.
In the film, Phil has to grieve for the old man; he has to come to terms with his “failure” to save him. But actually, he learned the one thing that was stymying him when he arrived in Punxsutawney, and the thing that tends to stymie all of us: whether the old man lives or dies is irrelevant. It’s not the saving of the old man that Phil was being asked to do. He was being asked to care. He was being asked to involve himself with another human being, and to help make that person’s life as happy as possible while he’s on this planet. Maybe the old man died anyway, but Phil had turned what could have been a sad ending in a cold gutter into an evening with a new friend, a full tummy and a warm bed. Basically, Phil didn’t fail at all.
We all die. What matters isn’t that we die, but what we do before we die. Who have we fed? Who have we clothed? Who have we befriended? Who have we loved? Did we make the people in the world happier with our actions, or not? Who did we hold, and who’s holding us? Phil needed to learn to see the world from this perspective, and so do we, I think … but unlike Phil, we only have the one chance at it. Let’s not mess it up.